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Hi
Thanks a lot for raising this issue. The reasons for our youth
for being trimmed follow as :
1. The major reason behind this is the rejection of Sikh boys
by the Sikh girls.The Sikh boys which are not trimmed and
wearing turban are facing lot of rejections and humiliation of
Sikh girls which prefer the clean shaven boys only. Please pick
up the matrimonial section of any news paper. You can find many
advertisements in which it would be clearly mentioned "Clean
Shaven Preferred". This thing is very common in Punjab and
Delhi side.Can't a Sikh guy in
turban and untrimmed beard be smart?
What steps are taken by the parents of the girls to improve this
thing? All the times parents accept the decision of their
daughters not to get married to the Sikh turbaned guy. This is
the major reason among the young guys.
In metro cities where friendships among boys and girls have
become very common, you will see only countable examples where a
Sikh girl is and Sikh boy are going around each other. Maximum
number of times you will find the Sikh girls with the non-sikh
boy only. This is because the non-sikh guys don’t have beard and
turban which makes them good looking(as said by girls.). So how
can you expect the younger generation having the beard and
turban.
2. In Punjab , we are divided into many castes like Jatts,
Khatri, Ramgarias etc. Each caste has its +ve and -ve points.
Jatt caste is considered as a dominant caste in punjab. A small
child getting born in this caste starts considering himself
superior to the other castes. Getting a hair cut is considered
as a prestige issue in this society "Jattaan da munda ho ke vaal
nahi katwaye". You will hardly find any Jatt boy who is a
Gursikh. So getting married in Jat caste is preffered in
this caste.
Now comes the Khatri caste. They can be easily recognized with
their Gursikh look. They have long beard and always wear
turban. They go to gurdwara daily and are gursikhs ( amrit
chakhya hoya hai) but they have a bigger misunderstanding that
the load of whole of the Sikhism is carried on their shoulders
only and they are the only who are true sikhs. Hence they
considers themselves as superiors to the other castes of sikhs. Their
selection criterion of a boy is that he must have a untrimmed
beard and turban. But if you will ask the people of other castes
among the sikhs, these people are considered as most selfish
and big liars. Generally called as "Pappas" in other castes. As
they considers themselves as superiors, they never get ready to
marry their daughters in the other castes of the sikhs. They can
marry their daughters with the boys of their relatives like "bua
da munda", "mame da munda" etc.
Similarly Ramgarias want to get married to Ramgarias only.
Now as we have divided ourselves into different castes, we
already have shortened our choices. Ultimately the boys and
girls don't get their compatible matches and have to get married
by doing compromises. This kind of compromise marriage
ultimately breaks in the future. That is why the young girls are
taking their own decisions to get married to the non-sikh boys
because they don’t get compatible matches.
I know in writing all these rude things I have hurt the feelings
of many people. I am extremely sorry for that but my main aim to
is request all the Sikhs of
India to get together and
fight collectively against this problem. First of all we should
get united, by leaving our egos and superiority feeling, then we
should think of fighting against this kind of problem. We should
start making the marriage relations in all castes of sikhs.
Guru Gobind Singh Jee ne
amrit dee daat panj piyareya nu ditti c, oh panj piyare
different castes nu belong kerde c.
Es layee he sikhs, ajj v apne vicho castism hata ke fer sikhism
nu utte chukko.
Regards
Manpreet Singh
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